For years, the issue of gay marriage has been almost a constant debate in our nation’s courts. Christian lawmakers fight for the sanctity of marriage as being only between one man and one woman.
Perhaps they’re right. Perhaps that’s God’s divine will for our nation.
Perhaps they’re wrong. Perhaps God intends to allow gay marriage across the entire country. I don’t claim to know much about the law, but here’s what I see:
- Much of the world sees Christians as bigoted, narrow-minded hypocrites. Fighting so hard to prevent gay couples from marrying and from receiving the basic benefits that any married couple in the U.S. receives makes Christians look incredibly selfish. The world sees how ridiculous it is to claim that somehow your heterosexual marriage will have less value if homosexual couples are allowed the same right. To me, my marriage is a sacred covenant between my husband, me, and God. Other forms of recognized marriages do nothing to diminish that.
- Regardless of what the Bible says about homosexuality, the Bible is not the main source of wisdom for the U.S. government. I’m sorry, but I don’t believe we can necessarily be dubbed a “Christian nation” anymore. The nation has many roots in Christianity, it’s true, but more importantly, in religious freedom. If we’re not a Christian nation, then how can we create our laws solely on the basis of Christian mandates?
- Rarely does throwing Bible verses in a person’s face result in him or her repenting of sin and beginning a new life in Christ. Most of the nonbelievers I know are put off by forceful, in-your-face evangelism. They’ll dig in their heels even further if confronted with sin. They’ll become defensive rather than open to hearing God’s Word. They might, however, respond to love.
- We are all sinners. Jesus said “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone” (John 8:7). Why are Christians so quick to throw stones about this issue, while often ignoring sin issues in our own lives (greed, dishonesty, adultery, drunkenness, anger, etc.)?
- Our country has so many other pressing issues to contend with, gay marriage seems like it shouldn’t be at the forefront of Christian politicians’ minds. What about health care, joblessness, abandoned children, education? How much energy and government funding could be much more effectively expended on any of these rather than something like this?
- Christians are commanded to love. I can’t even pick one verse to back this up because there are so many. No, this doesn’t have to mean that we condone sin. It means that we are to love others no matter how we may disagree with their choices. Is it easy? Absolutely not. But perhaps if Christians would focus less on preventing gay marriage/hurling guilt at homosexuals and more on loving one another in tangible ways, honest and respectful dialogue could actually occur.
I realize that in some ways, I may be oversimplifying things. I realize that for every new legislation, there are likely to be uncontrollable and unforeseen consequences. I realize that I am probably stepping on quite a few toes, maybe even on both sides of the issue.
Nevertheless, I feel that this needs to be said. I am tired of being associated with the Christians who are viewed as haters of the gay community. Christ is so much bigger than this one issue!
Final thoughts: shouldn’t the ultimate goal for us as followers of Christ be that more and more people become followers of Christ? And how is fighting against gay marriage going to accomplish this?